Love Someone With ADHD

Loving someone with ADHD can be wonderful and exhausting at the same time. Plans slip. Requests get forgotten. A simple question turns into a shame spiral. You end up feeling more like a manager than a spouse.

Love Someone With ADHD gives spouses, significant others, friends, and family the right words for hard moments, a personal 4-week plan for your marriage or relationship, and help that works in under a minute. It was created by Dr. Andrew Wichterman, a licensed counselor who provides comprehensive ADHD evaluations for children, teens, and adults.

FIND WHERE THE FRICTION COMES FROM
A 3-minute, 18-question assessment looks at six common friction areas: time and commitments, emotional withdrawal, hyperfocus, forgetfulness and follow-through, shame and rejection sensitivity, and closeness and balance. Your profile shows your top areas, what is going on behind them, and which scripts to try first.

FOLLOW A 4-WEEK PLAN MADE FOR YOU
Your assessment builds a personal plan: one 5-minute step a day. Short lessons, scripts to try, practice, and reflection, focused on your biggest friction areas.

HELP IN THE HARD MOMENT
"Right now" mode is one tap from Home. Pick what is happening ("They are spiraling into shame," "I am about to snap") and get what to do in the next minute, the words to use, and a 1-minute breathing timer.

GET THE WORDS FOR HARD CONVERSATIONS
20 ready-to-use scripts for real situations:
• Ask for something without triggering rejection sensitivity
• De-escalate when they spiral into shame
• Set expectations without contempt
• Get their attention during hyperfocus
• Plan around time blindness
• Repair after you said something harsh
• Set a boundary for your own wellbeing
…and more. Each script shows what to say, what to avoid, and why it works.

UNDERSTAND WHAT IS REALLY GOING ON
12 five-minute lessons on time blindness, working memory, hyperfocus, emotional flooding, rejection sensitivity, the shame cycle, the manager trap, and caring for yourself.

SEE WHAT ACTUALLY WORKS
Log what happened, what you tried, and how it landed. After a few entries, the tracker spots your patterns, like "When you waited for a calm time, it landed well." Retake the assessment anytime and compare every friction area with where you started.

PRIVATE BY DESIGN
No account. No ads. No tracking. Everything you enter stays on your device.

ONE PRICE, EVERYTHING INCLUDED
No subscriptions and no in-app purchases.

This app offers education and communication tools. It is not therapy, medical advice, or a diagnosis, and it does not replace care from a qualified professional. If you are in danger, call 911, or call or text 988.